But I want to take time now to thank some people. It's kinda "emotionable," as my kids put it. I can't do this without the risk of sounding braggy, because (squee!) first I have to share that I got an award.
|A very nervous Laura with her|
lovely and inspirational parents
and wonderful, wonderful hubby.
I have enjoyed my work. I will treasure the accolades, and will in my dotage surely be boring my grandkids with the generous and funny and humbling speech by Dr. Cynthia Bulik introducing my award. I am deeply grateful to Cindy's confederates, especially Leah Dean, for the tributes. It's way embarrassing, but I am enjoying it. There have been times in the past ten years when knowing that I would be thanked for my rabble-rousing would have seemed like a dream you wake up from, not one we carried home on a brass plate.
|Thank you, Cindy.|
I had a speech prepared, but in the moment my eyes were clouded and my glasses unclear so I did not deliver what I'd planned, exactly, but offer it here.
"Today is a great day to be an advocate, when I am given an award and kind words and wear my best shoes.
It isn't always fun, however. A friend here at AED who I consider one of many mentors in this room told me some time back that it isn't about being right, it is about relationships. At the time I resented that, but it was true. You all know this best as this is a room full of people who do relationships for a living.
Today I want to acknowledge some of the relationships that bring me here.
First, my parents, in the front row, who taught me when I see something wrong not to complain, but to do something about it. To respect people even if you disagree with the views they hold.
And my husband, also here today, who is like many of the husbands and partners of advocates the one who made it possible for me to take the time to do this work. We don't appreciate the dads enough. They're less visible, but they are heroes of advocacy. This man is a hero, for letting me turn our dining room table into an international organization and dye my hair blue for DNA research without warning him.
I am deeply grateful to my fellow parent advocates on whose shoulders my work has stood and the momentum and credibility they offer advocates now.
To Charlotte, in particular, for her example in life and in dying, to get on with it without whining.
Deep gratitude to the parents and community of FEAST, especially those volunteers who now take on the work and keep it going, like Leah Dean our Executive Director and our new Outreach Director, Lisa Laborde, and the board.
Thank you, so much, to my colleagues in the eating disorder professional world, and the advocates, for their support and their mentorship - and their own challenges to me that I learn from every day. Thank you for accepting and even welcoming parents into the advocacy, the field, and into the treatment of our loved ones.
And that is the point. My greatest gratitude goes to my dear daughter, whose illness moved me to do this work. It is the patients who all of us are here for, they are what we all share and care about. Our wonderful, courageous, daughter is my greatest hero."