I recently had a pretty typical exchange on a forum with people who actually treat real families that should chill the blood of those who understand the peril for the patients facing these attitudes and - therefore - denied appropriate care. I won't share the people involved for a number of reasons but mostly because this is not unusual. I feel parents really need to know and talk about the fact that this kind of discussion between clinicians is going on - in offices, at conferences, in trainings - without objection. These are real attitudes and I believe they are causing genuine harm. When these conversations go on among professionals there is a strong ethic of "everybody's right except the one criticizing." Objections are called "black and white" and the refuge of "everyone's different" is standard.
Without question, "brainspotting" and toxic families and dream analysis appall those who run evidence-based clinics but I see no movement in the professional field to call out or stand against such practices. But what about these patients? Who is protecting them? How are their parents to know how baseless and harmful this is before it is too late?
This conversation, like so many of the same, starts with some baseless assertion and a trail of false ideas. When objected to, the responses reveal other concerning misconceptions. In the end, nothing changes and no one is accountable.