"She says going to college this fall is the only thing she has to look forward to in life"
"He would be crushed if he couldn't play soccer"
"Going on this mission trip has been planned for a year"
"It would kill her to miss this"
Parents, any time you are afraid to the do the right thing because you think it might crush their spirit, make things worse, cause more resistance, be too big a fuss, or dissappoint them so much they might lose their will to live... remember that what "will kill" is the illness.
Giving in to ED for ANY reason is what "will kill."
You can be part of the solution for your kid, or part of the problem - if you're saying the things above you may just be part of the problem.