How parents can be wrong and still not cause eating disorders
Parents don't cause eating disorders. That doesn't mean parents are good. Parents vary. Some suck. Some do horrible damage. Some just fail to show up. We have an enormous influence over what happens to our kids and when they have a mental illness our influence over their outcome can be lifesaving (Case History #2: Young Man with Restricting Anorexia Nervosa), or tragic: (Case History #1: Young adult woman with severe anorexia nervosa).
Parents deserve, and need, the benefit of the doubt. Too often, the bad experience of dealing with parents like those in the latter case history can lead society and treatment providers to hold parents like those in the former history hostage to assumptions that would keep them from responding in the best way possible.
Parents need to be held accountable for their harmful actions and beliefs - to help the patient and the family. It should not be ignored or worked around. I'm not excusing or ignoring anything when I say parents don't cause eating disorders - just asking people to stop using "cause" as the only reason to care or intervene.